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Problemi i razumevanje | Problems and understanding

Mislim da niko nije svestan a ni spreman na to šta te očekuje dolaskom bebe… Drastične promene u svakodnevnom životu. Sve se poremeti….

I taman kad pomisliš “ sad ćemo uživati zajedno „ desi se skroz suprotno… Moj muž i ja imamo neku posebnu povezanost. Mi nismo samo muž i žena, mi smo jedan drugome i najbolji prijatelji i najstrastveniji ljubavnici…. E sad ono na šta te baš niko ne pripremi jeste da ti želiš, nakon porodjaja, samo sa bebom da uživaš, da se maziš… Tada te niko i ništa ne zanima.

Neverovatno je kolika ljubomora te spopadne prema svakome ko želi makar malo ljubavi da daje tvom detetu… Ja sam, lično, imala veliki problem s tim. I jako sam teško skrivala emocije. Kad god bi neko želeo da uzme bebu da pridrži ja bih izmislila da mu se spava ili da treba da sisa samo da bude kod mene.


I don’t think anyone is aware of, or even ready for, what awaits you with the arrival of a baby … A drastic change in daily life. Everything gets messed up…. And just when you think „now let’s enjoy it together,“ the opposite happens … My husband and I have some special connection. We are not only husband and wife, we are each other’s best friends and most passionate lovers …. Now what no one really prepares you for is that you want, after childbirth, just to enjoy with your baby, to pamper yourself .. Then nobody cares about you. It’s amazing how much jealousy you have towards anyone who wants to give your child even a little love … I, personally, had a big problem with that. And I found it really hard to hide my emotions. Whenever someone wanted to get a baby to hold I would make him sleepy or need to suck just to be with me.

Isto je bilo i sa mužem. Kad god bi se približio bebi ili meni ja bih ga odbacila. Sad kad razmislim, pomislim “ hvala mu što je i u mojim najludjim trenucima bio uz mene, uz nas „… Kada je shvatio da meni treba malo vremena i prostora, povukao se i ostavio da se stabilizujem…

Vremenom je sve došlo na svoje. Navikli smo se na novog člana naše porodice, navikli smo se jedan na drugog ponovo i čini mi se da su naša ljubav , poverenje i poštovanje postajala svakim danom sve čvršća…

Ta strast koju smo i pre imali bila je ovaj put još jača i veća.

“ Zato muževi naši, molim vas, razumite da nam u prvih godinu dana treba malo vremena i prostora samo za nas i bebu. Budite strpljivi i samo malo pričekajte jer kada se “ zasitimo “ maženja sa bebom vratimo se vama…

A onda kreću nove avanture zvane zubići, prelazak na cvrstu hranu, ostajanje sa bakama i dekama, skidanje pelena, prvi pad, prva prehlada….

Zahvalna sam mom mužu što je istrpeo svaki moj ludi trenutak, svako moje besno stanje, svaki moj ispad i što je i posle svega još uvek tu za nas i bori se sve više i sve jače….


what happened to her husband. Whenever he would approach the baby or me, I would reject him. Now that I think about it, I think „thank him for being with me and for us in my wildest moments“ … When he realized that I needed some time and space, he withdrew and left me to stabilize … Over time, everything came into its own. We are used to a new member of our family, we are used to each other again, and it seems to me that our love, trust and respect have become stronger every day … That passion we had before was even stronger and bigger this time. „That is why our husbands, please understand that in the first year we need some time and space only for us and the baby. Be patient and just wait a little bit because when we are full of pampering with the baby we will come back to you … And then there are new adventures called toothpicks, moving to solid foods, staying with grandmothers and blankets, taking off diapers, first fall, first cold…. I am grateful to my husband for having endured every one of my crazy moments, every one of my angry conditions, every one of my outbursts, and that after all, he is still there for us and he is struggling more and more …

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