Deca

Bes kod dvogodišnjaka | Toddler tantrum

Uh, kako mrzim ta stanja, u kojima se osećam nemoćno, iscrpljeno, kada osećam poglede ljudi, kada mi bruji u ušima. Znam da nisam sama, znam da se i drugi roditelji bore sa istim problemom. Ne znam šta je tačno u pitanju, da li taj sudar emocija, takozvani tantrum, da li čista razmaženost. Samo znam da je teško… David zna tako da se razbesni kada nešto nije po njegovom, recimo kada treba da udjemo u kuću a njemu se baš ostaje napolju, kada mu ne dam da nešto dira, kada smo u gradu pa on hoće da ide negde gde se nismo uputili. Te situacije kada smo u gradu su mi najgore, jer onda osećas preke poglede, poglede sažaljenja, a ti bi samo da nestaneš. On histeriše, plače bez suza, kao da vrišti, otima se, kada ga uhvatim za ruke on kao da hoće da klekne, kao da se ne drži na nogama više, a kada smo u kući onda počne da baca igračke na sve strane,lupa po nameštaju, zaista strašno. Za sada nisam pronašla rešenje, osim da ga u kući ignorišem, pravim se da ne čujem iako mi para uši, ali šta kada smo napolju, a oko nas ljudi?! Dobio je po guzi, ali nema neke pomoći… Primetila sam da ne reaguje tako burno kada probam da mu postepeno odvučem pažnju, da mu uz objašnjenja promenim tok misli što može prilično da potraje i ne završi se uvek uspešno, ali ako mu kažem izričito ne, tu nastaje haos. Ja sam poprilično stroga, tako da ne znam odakle mu takvo ponašanje, da li je to faza kroz koju sva deca prolaze ili šta ne znam. I ne znam baš najbolje kako da se nosim sa takvim situacijama, ako vi znate, pišite nam…


Uh, how I hate those states, in which I feel powerless, exhausted, when I feel people’s looks, when my ears are buzzing. I know I’m not alone, I know other parents are struggling with the same problem. I don’t know what exactly is in question, whether that clash of emotions, the so-called tantrum, or pure pampering. I just know it’s hard … David knows how to get angry when something is not his way, say when we need to go into the house and he just stays outside, when I don’t let him touch anything, when we’re in town so he wants to going somewhere we didn’t go. Those situations when we are in the city are the worst for me, because then you feel over looks, looks of pity, and you would just disappear. He is hysterical, he cries without tears, as if screaming, he fights, when I grab his hands he seems to want to kneel, as if he doesn’t stay on his feet anymore, and when we are in the house then he starts throwing toys in all directions, he bangs on the furniture, really scary. So far, I haven’t found a solution, except to ignore it at home, I pretend not to hear even though my ears are ringing, but what when we are outside and there are people around us ?! He got hit in the ass, but there is no help … I noticed that he does not react so violently when I try to gradually distract him, to change the course of his thoughts with explanations, which can take quite a while and not always end successfully, but if I tell him explicitly not, there is chaos. I am quite strict, so I don’t know where his behavior came from, whether it is the phase that all children go through or what I don’t know. And I don’t know very well how to deal with such situations, if you know, write to us …

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